I cannot write a food review

It’s an irony that after I wrote about weight management , diet and healthy lifestyle, I gained a few pounds. When I looked at my recent photos, I could see the fat girl inside revealing. Maybe I was just paranoid. But this afternoon, I checked my weight and I was shocked to find out that I did gain weight. It’s like I swallowed what I said in my previous blog post. I wanted to delete but decided to keep it as a reminder.

How can I not gain weight when fancy dinners are always on my schedule? My friend told me that a pound you gain is a memory you keep. Hence, keep memories and keep the calories as well. Food is a basic need and it is also an experience.

Two weeks ago, my friend celebrated his birthday in Adarna Food and Culture Restaurant. My other friend suggested: “Why don’t you write about this place, about the food in your blog?”

I cannot write a food review for I’d rather write about life, love, family, drama, and philosophical interpretation of the world. I cannot write a food review for what else can I say? I can say that it’s delicious, mouthwatering. I can describe how my mouth opens to fit a burger, how my lips linger for the drops left from drinking fruit juice, and how my stomach feels after eating an exotic dish. But everything I have to say only appeals to my senses. And to speak on what we can taste, smell, and touch is somehow superficial. Photos are enough to say that the fried chicken is greasy, that the vegetables are half -cooked. This is the deeper reason why I cannot write a food review.

Adarna Food and Culture Restaurant
Adarna Food and Culture Restaurant
(Photos from my friend OJ Serquina)

If I write about food and rate it according to my taste, I’m afraid I’m going to be biased. I’ll probably like the food because I like the people whom I’m dining with. To say that the food you eat and the people around you are interrelated may sound nonsensical. But food, again, is an experience. For instance, you are having dinner with someone you hate, you’ll probably not like the food. You’ll be in a hurry to finish your meal because the longer you eat, the longer you spend time with the person you hate. But when you dine with someone you like, you’ll spend more time finishing your food. You will slowly chew  that you can almost savor every ingredient in your dish. Probably, you will forget all the details, how bland, how saucy, how salty but what you will remember is the overall experience. Is it pleasant? Is it disappointing?

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for your curiosity, my two male friends 🙂

You must have memorized the taste of french fries and burger of a fast food chain but when you create a new memory, it’s like you’re eating fast food for the first time. An example: Jollibee chickenjoy reminds you of your childhood. You keep coming back not because of its taste but because it brings back pleasant feelings. Perhaps, describing food is a trick of the mind, trick of the memory. It can be classical conditioning in Psychology. It’s more of reconstructing experiences.

So when I like dining in this restaurant, it just so happens that the food is good and the place is great. But it’s more of — I enjoy the company of the person whom I’m dining with. That’s a useful principle for dating and a basic fact of friendship.

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Presenting the men of my life 😀

Girls are like Magazines and Novels

Photo Source: http://www.glamour.com/

There is no debate which is better, a novel or a magazine. Both have different target readers. The two are read for different purposes in different times. A novel is read during a quiet time in bedroom. A magazine is read during heavy traffic or while waiting one’s turn in the doctor’s clinic. A magazine is meant to entertain and to update readers. A novel is also meant to entertain but not to update readers. Magazines are for people on the rush while novels are for people who take time.

This leads me to compare girls with novels and magazines. A man who chooses a girl he will date is like a man who chooses what to buy in a bookstore. The one he chooses depends on what his needs and interests are. The man who likes to buy a novel is like a man who wants to spend a long time with his girl. The man who picks a magazine wants something that is easy and requires little time for reading like a girl who does not demand much time. If he has short attention span, he will prefer to buy a magazine. If he is a conscientious reader and pays attentions to small details, he will buy a novel.

Girls are like novels and magazines. Some are easy on the eyes and easy to love while some cannot catch a man’s attention in a swift glance. He will learn to like her with additional details. And if a novel takes a lot of time, hence he will never forget. But a magazine with its thin pages, he can neglect.

Between the two, a novel is expensive while a magazine depreciates in value over time. When a man reads a novel all over again, he will always discover something new. But when a man reads a magazine again, there is obviously nothing new. There are a lot of things that can be said about a novel and he can make a book review. But a magazine, what else can he say? Maybe he can give a brief description but not as rich as he would describe how an author writes a novel.

Magazines are available everywhere. He can find them in bus stop, airport, parlor, and grocery store. But a novel is not accessible all the time. Like novels, some girls are hard to reach while magazines are always within his reach. But if a man wants to brag his taste and intellect, he will display novels in his living room.

A novel is personal and intimate. A man who enjoys reading a novel, is eager to touch a new page. He smells it, sleeps with it, protects it. When a man is done reading a magazine, he leaves the magazine to others and say, “You can have it.”

A novel is something he can pass to the next generation but a magazine serves its own generation for when the trends are gone, it is lost. Some girls are like novels worth keeping for a lifetime while some are fleeting, lovely in their own time.

Reply to a Friend who is in need of a kiss

Dear Friend,

You asked me if I knew how to kiss, as if I could give you a demo or a free taste.

Do lovers hold hands?

Do they embrace?

How often?

How long?

Questions of a girl who has never exchanged glances with a guy or has exchanged sweet nothings.

If you have fallen in love with so many men, then you haven’t loved at all. And the pain you get from unrequited love as what you claim is nothing more but fleeting passion that has not been received like a die-hard fan ignored by her celebrity crush. It is not even as painful as one gets from a letter with no response.

Girls often envy those who have relationship status. They think those girls who have been touched and been kissed are lucky. But in truth you are lucky.

 Why?

Because your heart is still a one whole piece. Some who have been there don’t have scars in their hearts but holes. Scars are better than holes. For when a scar is born, it means it stops bleeding. But if it is still a hole, an open wound, it bleeds continuously.

You said you wished you had romantic moments to look back. Why wish for dying memories? It’s tragic to look back and exciting to look forward. And those who have been there are not really as excited as you will be.

You feel bad because no one said, “I love you.” It will always be magical to hear those words but it feels worse when someone said “I love you.” Then, “Goodbye.”

I hope one day you’ll find your Mr. Right who will laugh with you and will laugh at you. And of course with your wicked smile, you will laugh at him too. If you watch a chick flick together, he will watch your useless tears more than the movie itself.

Yes, love hurts. And I am not exaggerating that. We always say there are many fish in the sea and stars in the sky but we know we are lying. A dynamite can kill a school of fish and stars have life span too. See statistics.

I know no man is irreplaceable as what you and Beyonce said. But Katy Perry told me each of us is original, cannot be replaced.

You don’t believe in forever. Sure, you don’t. But when you experience something beautiful you will believe not only in forever, but in everything.

So, take the advice of John Carter: ”Find a cause. Fall in love. Write a book.” I am not bitter and selfish when I say, “Everyone deserves a broken heart.” Trust me, it’s for your own good.

If you come to me crying, I know those tears are not for a man but tears for true love, tears coming from a woman who has loved genuinely and selflessly. And that’s when you know love.