Dealing with Tinker Bell Syndrome

Lea Michele
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Lea Michele

Glee Star

Broadway Actor

Lea Salonga

Kim in Ms. Saigon

Tony Award Winner

Kristin chenoweth
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Kristen Chenoweth

Glinda in Wicked

Tony Award Winner

Charice Pempengco
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Charice Pempengo

International Sensation


 Jacklyn Belo

Aspiring Somebody (hehe!)

What do we have in common?

We are not tall girls.

 Of course, I’m the shortest.

In the modeling  and beauty pageant industry, 5’6″ is already short. For Caucasian girls, 5’3″ is already short. In the Philippines, 5’3″ is just the average height for girls. But whatever ruler you are going to use, I am short.  

When I was in elementary, I used to be one of the tallest girls. I was one of the last person in line during flag ceremony. Probably when I was in Grade V, I stopped growing.   And the girls who used to be first in line were moving their way to the end of the line.  Time ran too  fast that my height was not able to catch up. I knew I was not growing anymore by the number of times I was placed on the front row.

Gee, I’m not even five feet tall! Like other short girls, I battle life with Tinker Bell Syndrome. The Tinker Bell Syndrome describes a woman, despite her petite height, who is able to overcome this disadvantage and still succeed in life  ( Chictopia, 2011)

As written in Daily Mail (2010), psychologist David Lewis, director of research at Mindlab International, said that height has just as profound an effect on a woman’s character (Gordon, 2010).

This explains the success of Lady Gaga and Judy Dench who are only 5’1″ tall.  Short women find the need to prove themselves in a world where height is might.

It’s quite annoying when people keep saying, “You’re short.”  At the back of my head, Why say something that is obvious? Am I blind not to see that your chest is in front of me? Can I not feel the stretch of my neck  when I talk to you?

Eventually, my ears have adjusted. They are all part of  my daily noise (hehe). It’s part of growing up to accept that I am not growing tall at all. If  you haven’t reached your desired height yet or if you haven’t accepted our shared recessive gene,  here are some things about your height that you can be proud of.

You will always look young.

I don’t know if this is an advantage but when you reach 40, you’ll be happy with your slow growth or must I say eternal youth.

It is easy for you to hide.

When you meet someone you don’t like in the mall, it is easy to make yourself  invisible in the crowd. If by theory of evolution applied, it’s one reason why this recessive gene height was passed through many generations. It is a means of survival, a protection against enemy.

You can always find an escort.

I cannot imagine myself being as tall as Georgina Wilson, Solenn Heussaff and other top models. If  I am a six-footer woman  living in the Philippines, it will be so difficult to find someone who will visually match me in a party.   I have to visit  a basketball court or a runway in a fashion show  to find ‘the one.’

You are always on the front row.

If you are part of choir performance and theater plays, you are always in  front  regardless of your talent and your role in the presentation. You are a star!

You are environment-friendly

You are low maintenance. Your height tells other people that you do not consume  a lot of thread, cloth, pins. The length of your body also shows you do not scrub as much as tall girls do.  Hence, you save soap and water. You stockings are shorter than those who have long legs.  You are harmless  to the booming human population when it comes to supplies of commodities. When you ride a jeepney, you can squeeze in and share some space for another passenger.

Your are cute.

The word  “cute” has a vague definition. When you’re chubby, you’re cute. When you’re small, you’re cute. When you’re charming, you’re cute.  Someone told me cute means ugly but interesting. But in my life, it’s a polite way of  saying: “You are short, dear.”

It is easy to shop a new outfit. 

It does not mean you’re short, you’re slim. But when you’re short, you have short shoulder length. And this determines the size of your outfit. In Philippine setting, it is easy to pick a shirt that will fit a short girl. If you can’t  find clothes in the adult section, you can go to teens wear.

You can carry yourself.

Yes, you can carry yourself  literally and figuratively speaking.

It was not really a light; it made this light by flashing about so quickly, but when it came to rest for a second you saw it was a fairy, no longer than your hand, but still glowing.  It was a girl called Tinker Bell, exquisitely gowned in a skeleton leaf…

J M Barrie, Peter Pan

If this does not comfort you, look at my favorite stars.

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19 thoughts on “Dealing with Tinker Bell Syndrome

  1. My daughter is quite petit too but ibe thing I appreciate about her height..she seems to be more fluid, easy to dance, easy to adapt to body movements. She moves beautifully. Thank you for visiting my personal space in the sphere. Have a happy weekend!


  2. cute talaga ang mga babaeng hindi gaano katangkaran. 😀 this post made me smile. marami akong kakilalang maliliit na babae. siguradong relate sila dito. 😀


  3. at napagkakamalang anak ng kaibigan. pambihira talaga! di talaga ako maka-get over. sabihan mo nga ang music teacher mo na bumili ng salamin. huhuhu…samantalang kapag mag-isa ako tinatawag akong intern o nene. Kapag kasama kita, mommy na. huhuhu…anyhoo, big girls don’t cry.

    Natuwa naman ako at hinanay mo ang sarili mo sa mga bigating stars. naniniwala akong magiging opera singer ka…libre ulit ha. ..from your bayarang fan.


    1. ako nga nahuhhurt ako lagi kasi napagkakamalang ako lagi 10 year old. hehe! depende siguro kung sinong katabi mo hehe isa lang ibig sabihin yan pwede ka na magasawa hehe


  4. OMG, I really wanted to write a post on this but glad I found yours!
    I am also petite.
    One time I received a comment: “Maganda ka sana kaso, ang liit mo e.”
    Hahaha. Mapanghusgang mundo! But totally agree with what you shared here. All the more take the comment as a propeller, an inspiration to strive harder. 🙂


    1. sige, go write a post about it! sigurado makakarelate ako hehe..pero naniniwala ako kung kulang tayo sa ibang bagay tulad ng height, sobra naman tayo sa ibang bagay LOL


      1. Syempre naman! hehehe. 🙂
        Natuwa ako dun sa advantages mo, lalo na dun sa may pinag tataguan! Madaling maging ninja! 😀


  5. i agree. i’m not even 5’3 and standing next to my man who is 5’11 1/2 makes me look like tinker bell no less. that’s a lovely picture of you, btw!


  6. This is so true, I am merely 5’6″, and already, it is hard for me to get a good male during performances because most guys are not tall enough. You won’t have problems with that! 🙂


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