When you are in your twenties, you feel like you are rushing towards the age of thirty. You think something must happen. You want to see changes. You are eager to see improvement in your life. With all these thoughts running in your head, comes your favorite hobby, complaining. I complain a lot. When I talk to my friends, I realize we are complaining over the same things. Here are some of common complaints I hear from my age group.
“Life is not fair.”
You look around your peers. You wonder why other people get things so easy. You tell yourself life is not fair because others have achieved more than you do. Others get what they want on first try while you on the other hand are stuck with your no-success life. But before you conclude life is not fair, think about how many injustices are happening in the world. There are many forced disappearances, lost families, and lost lives. As long as you are not a victim of crime or any natural calamity, you have no right to complain life is not fair.
“I have a boring life.”
Boredom is a good or bad sign of a healthy life. If you have a boring life, it might mean absence of major problems in your life or it might also mean you are not taking risk to reach greater heights. Think about it. My five-year old niece complains to her mom, “I’m so very bored.” My sister then replies, “You have to be bored. It’s normal to be bored.”
“I don’t have a high paying job.”
When I hear people complaining about salary wages, I like to be preachy. I want to tell them: “Think about the factory workers, the fishermen, the farmers. They sweat like hell yet they earn less than you do. While you on the other hand, spend eight hours chilling in an air-conditioned room and the only busy part of your body are your fingers. What you only have is a college diploma that makes you different form the rest. You have to know what “high paying” means.
“I don’t have my dream job.”
What is exactly your dream job? To be a movie star? A novelist? A film maker? CEO? An astronaut? If your dream job sounds like one of these, you need not to complain. Seriously, how many people in the world are employed with these kinds of jobs?
“I don’t have a love life.”
My friend tells me, “ I wish I have a boyfriend. I wish I have a love life.” Deep inside, I want to tell her, ”If you only knew the pain of loving, you would not have wished for it.” I keep this to myself because I do not want to sound pathetic in front of my friend. Logically speaking, are you ready to get married? Do you want to have kids? Okay, the chances may be slim of having a husband in your pursuit of having a boyfriend. But what if you fall in love with the man of your dreams, and then he suddenly asks you if you want to marry him? Will you say, “Yes”? If any of your answers is “No”, then be careful what you wish for.
“Nobody loves me.”
Love is not measured by the number of fans or friends in Facebook. You’ll meet a lot of people but most of them will only be acquaintances. Some will be your friends for special occasions. Some will be friends for business. But a small group of friends is definitely okay. In fact, if there is only one person in this world who loves you, you have enough reason to survive.
Okay I know I am complaining about these complaints. I just want to tell you that: If you have the same sentiments as those listed above, then you are not the most miserable human being in the world. You are not a product of unfortunate events. Therefore, you can conclude you are absolutely normal. This means anything you complain is not worth complaining.