Wisdom is a sign of aging. You cry less. You laugh less. You choose your battles. You learn to fight. You learn to give up. You learn to give in. After surviving more than two decades in this world, I pick up some life lessons which I call my “personal theories”. If tested and proven many times, these can be called “truths.” I need to experience much in life for me to finally claim these are “truths.”
Here are some of my “theories.” Sometimes, I try to convince myself that these are all true. Nevertheless, I want you and me to believe in these.
Talent is innate but success is an option.
They say talent is genetic. It’s either you have it or it’s either you don’t. But success is for everybody. It’s either you grab it. It’s either you don’t.
There will always be someone better than you.
When I was in grade school, my dad reminded me, “There will always be someone better than you.” Up to this day, my dad’s words echo in my head and it keeps me grounded. But I somehow improve my dad’s words of wisdom. My version is: “There will always be someone better than you but you will always be better than someone else.”(lol) Anyway, to make life easier, don’t compare yourself with anybody else.
If you lack talent, practice.
If you constantly do what you like to do regardless if people think you don’t have what it takes. Later on, you will be surprised of what you can do.
If you lack knowledge, read/ study.
Our weakness can often be compensated through learning, interest, and effort. Knowledge is always acquired. You will not be a lawyer if you will not study law. The bottom line is any knowledge can be gained. Everybody in this world is given a chance to learn.
It’s okay not to be okay.
It’s a line from Jessie Jay’s song Who You Are. It’s okay to grieve on the things you consider important. The following lines of the song tell you why: Tears don’t mean you’re losing, everybody’s bruising, just be true to who you are!
With great success, comes great failure. With great failure, comes great success.
If you want to succeed, you must take the risk of failing.
With great happiness, comes great sorrow. With great sorrow, comes great happiness.
Again, this is a fact of life. The key is to be prepared for what you ask because everything has a price.
If you have determination, you are making your destiny. If you lack determination, someone will decide your destiny.