Soap. Clothes. Skin. Milk. Vanity
Daniel reminds me of my shortcomings as a woman. He spends an hour or more in taking a bath while I spend 10 minutes or less in the bathroom. He applies papaya soap, Belo soap and other facial wash while I am an advocate of strict natural beauty. Every time he leaves the house, he never forgets to have a close look on the mirror while I go out of the house without combing my hair. He drinks milk before he goes to bed while milk commercials have never motivated me to drink milk. He sells and promotes herbal supplements for health and beauty while I do not prioritize health and beauty in the must-have things in life. He cares for his body that he makes sure he has enough time to sleep while I abused my body by waking up all night and neglecting afternoon naps. He is a man who maintains cleanliness and good grooming while I am a woman by name and not by practice (that is if you want to stereotype ‘woman’.)
A man is a man regardless of what he likes, what he wears, what he smells, and what he does everyday. He plays a lot of computer games as much as he consumes a lot of water for his bath and for good-night facial wash. He is much concerned about his invisible pimples as much as he is concerned on what to give for his girl. He might probably save money for a new jacket or‘miracle’ soap but I am pretty sure he will save more money for his future wife and children. He is a man, a ‘flower man’.
He is a man who checks his skin color and wears a white mask before he goes to sleep while I am woman who does not know how to use eye-curler and who can not remember playing Barbie dolls as a child. It all boils down to two possibilities: Not all girls like flowers and the reason why some men don’t send flowers is because they want to keep them for themselves.
What we are makes us man and woman and what we are not does not make us less man and less woman. It’s a state of mind.